Real life - from a woman's perspective.

In a world filled with blue jeans, tank tops and flip flops, where do heels or dresses fit in?  It seems these days, the theme to all events, moments shared and memories is comfort and convenience.  Going to dinner? Throw on some jeans and a tee. Attending a party? Jeans again... and maybe a snazzy blouse, oh, and flats of course.  Don't get me wrong, I'm not mocking the comfort style as I live this on the daily! All I'm saying is, at what point do we decide to put a little effort in?   That being said, I did it! And not just me alone, my young ladies did too! We had a sweet 16 to attend, so what better event to play dress up to... and that's just what we did. And you know, it really didn't take that much more effort. As a matter of fact, it felt great watching my two ladies getting their selves dolled up. To see the camaraderie between them was nothing shy of amazing! When in other circumstances, I might hear a little sibling rivalry or just the slig...

Today I was compelled to communicate with my high school daughter on numerous occasions. Today I felt scared, worried, unsure and saddened by the current events taking place in our Nation. Today I genuinely wept for mothers and fathers I don't even know. I wept for sisters and brothers, aunts and uncles, friends and classmates. Today I just wanted to hold my entire family and tell them it was going to be alright. It's one thing to have a general fear of the possibility of danger or more so, of the unknown. It's another when you genuinely have a growing anxiety over sending your kids to school. How did I go from celebrating the first day of school with tears of excitement and joy to a balled up, stomach aching, gut wrenching worry of my girls safety? Talk about fear of the unknown - this is fear of the known but not knowing when, what school, who... and therein lies the sickening feelings of fear, anger, sadness and grief. I find myself running through steps of how to ...

According to Brian Littrell, "Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss the moon, you'll land among the stars." Most will find this motivational and inspiring. And at face value, that's very possible. I find this quote a bit challenging actually, for a few reasons.  For one, it symbolizes a goal, more so working towards reaching a goal, namely, the moon. And who doesn't want to reach a goal?? The part that makes me cringe and shy away is "shooting" for it, especially when you have done no target practice, you have no experience shooting, you aren't good at aiming and well, plainly don't have the tools to do so. You with me so far? Secondly, who say's that "landing in the stars" is ok? Sounds like a cop out, a settling, a give up from the initial thought of shooting for the moon. What if my intentions was to surpass the stars because the moon meant more to me? What if my starting point IS the stars?  Still with me? I could be jus...

Success by definition is  the accomplishment of an aim or purpose.  The question is, by who’s perspective? In today’s world of social media influences coupled with the need to feel validated, maybe success has been misunderstood.  Celebrities coin the term “successful” by way of images of money, power, popularity and fame. But are those truly the keys to success?  People choose to mold their image of success around what the next person is doing that just received 100 likes on Facebook.  ...if you start thinking about it, do you consider yourself a success? From who's perspective? To what degree?  I feel that once you have come to a place where you have found a purpose, whether it be a mom of three, such as myself or a public speaker motivating and enriching positivity, THAT's when you take the necessary steps to embody that purpose! Why not master that purpose you ask? Because maybe success doesn't have an end; maybe success is more of a moving t...

To truly declare that you've learned a lesson implies that there was an opportunity of growth, wouldn't you agree?  This opportunity could be something so simple as knowing not to touch a hot stove or it could be something difficult, like how to trust your instincts. But at what point can you really DECREE that a lesson was truly learned, unless you have relived it and relived it, again and again until you've had no other choice but to learn, grow and move forward?  Ever wonder why it seems life continues to spiral, repeating itself? Could it be that there's something to gain that's gone unnoticed?  As a mom, I can recall repeating myself over and over to my children, to ensure they "get it". I used to joke and say I was a broken record but it worked; the repetition stuck and they understood. They got the lesson. From then on, there was no need for a re-do. The lesson was learned.   Consider this throughout your day, has there been anything -on re...